A change in sexual strategy made me a suspect

“Though I’ve been married for almost twenty years, I’m still under the age of forty because I got married early. My husband is nice but he’s a bit on the conservative side especially when it comes to sex so we never talk about sex and I don’t know much more than the missionary position.

One day, a friend of mine invited a group of us over for a little ‘all married girls’ party. There, people talked about all kinds of relationship stuff and when it came to sex, the stories turned salacious. I covertly listened to their shared experiences and stories on how to keep things spicy in the bedroom. It was definitely an eye opener for me considering my passive sexual experience. For days after, I thought about all that was said and one day, I decided to try some of the stuff they’d talked about with my husband – to spice things up.

My husband was away on a business trip so it gave me time to convince myself to carry out my plan. The night he got back, I took the initiative when we went to bed. I kissed him, touched him and before he could get on top of me, I was on top of him. It was so much fun – more fun that we’d ever had and when we were done, my husband had a very satisfied look on his face…for the first few minutes. Then he turned to me with a big scowl and asked me what I’d been up to while he was gone. All my explanations fell on deaf ears as my husband accused me of infidelity, saying I must have learnt my new tricks from someone else. For weeks, he barely spoke to me and when it got so bad, I was forced to call in his sisters to mediate. I also had to tell them everything that had happened – I was so embarrassed.

In the mediation, my husband told them that I’d changed and become promiscuous and when they asked for proof, he looked at me meaningfully and said I should tell them what I’d done as he was unwilling to embarrass himself by talking about it. Luckily, my sisters in law are a bit more open minded so they were mostly amused by the situation. It took a while but eventually, they convinced him of my innocence. They even teased him for not being the more adventurous between us.

After it all, I apologized to my husband for changing sexual strategy. I also firmly capped my adventurous spirit; I didn’t want any unnecessary dramas again. No point.