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“When my mother died, I was living abroad; I
was also very broke and barely able to feed. I received the news of my mother’s
death with a sad and heavy heart knowing I would not be able to make the trip
home to be part of the burial ceremonies because I didn’t have any money. Some relatives called to condole with me and I
confided in one of them that I could not afford to make the trip home for her
burial. Along with some others, they raised some money to cover my travel
expenses.
Weeks before the burial, I looked at my finances.
Practically all the money I had was the kind donations of my relatives and
friends for my trip home.
I looked harder at my debts which were strangling me
and I took the decision to forfeit the trip and use the money to pay down some
of my debts and buy food. I really wanted to go home but I also really wanted
to survive the hardship that was strangling me. Besides, I had other siblings
who were home already so what did my presence matter?
Till today, not one of those who raised the money
for me has said anything about it but I know they’re probably a little upset
that I didn’t make the trip they contributed for. I’m too desperate to care
though. I was, and still am, heartbroken over my mum’s death but I figured she
would want me to survive many more years after she’s gone. Spending money I
could use to eat to go and bury her would not bring her back so I made the
smart decision. I strongly believe that.
4 comments:
hunger is a terrible thing!
I get the hunger and poverty issue but this is a matter of dishonesty. Money was contributed for a specific purpose and you used it for something else. it will be hard for those people to rally for you again cos you'll be seen as one without integrity. That's what I think. Its unfortunate you found yourself in such a situation
You did nothing wrong. The money was meant for you to spend as you wish. What you must know howevr is that you have drawn an iou from those who contributed money for you. Meanwhile go on and solve your problems as they seem to be legion.
Anon 5:12, i dont know if i agree that she did nothing wrong? People made that contribution for a specific purpose from the story she told, they contributed it to pay her travel expense. Well, there's nothing wrong technically but e get as e be for them to see you hanging around when you're supposed to have left town. You know that some of them may have increased their contribution to accomodate her travel, otherwise they might have contributed less as pure condolence. They will feel like she took advantage of their sympathy. Thats what i think
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