I definitely preferred my dad to my
mum because he was more flexible and fun. He encouraged me to bring girl-friends
home unlike my mum who didn’t like it and always insisted that the girls come
around only when she was home. She would also insist that I entertain girl
friends in the family living room so she could keep an eye on us.
But once I entered the university, I got my
mum’s free pass. She said I was mature enough to entertain my friends in the privacy
of my room. She also said that I had to be careful with my female friends when
they came around. I rolled my eyes and she smiled, gently telling me that her advice
was not totally about me, before walking away. I was to discover the meaning of
that comment much later.
My relationship with girls didn’t last long though
this didn’t bother me much because I was enjoying being with different girls. However,
one day, I came back from school without warning and went straight to my ‘then’
girlfriend’s house to pay her a surprise visit. She wasn’t home and as I left, I
noticed my dad’s car parked at one of the corners near her street. Thinking nothing
of it, I parked and walked across to talk to him; luckily, I stopped in time
before they saw me. My dad and my girlfriend were playing 'funny' games in the car.
I wasn’t sure how to react; it was unexpected.
I mean, who expects this? When he got home and saw me, he acted like he always did. I didn’t call my
girlfriend but maybe my dad did because the next day, she showed up and acted
like there was nothing fishy going on with her. I broke up with her that week, I
didn’t give her a reason and she didn’t ask or seem bothered so I guess my dad
was better fish than me.
Unfortunately for me, this was not a single incident. It happened with the girls I brought home - both the casual friends
and those I was interested in romantically. Either they hooked up with my dad
or avoided my house – your guess on the reasons is as good as mine. I became
wary of girls, especially those in my neighborhood because I wasn’t sure if a
backstory existed with them and my dad. And the worst part - I couldn’t say
anything. I felt ashamed, awkward and didn’t know how to relate with such
a cheat who would betray even his own son.
Know the most awkward part – he acted no differently. I did my best to avoid him and discouraged my female friends from
coming to my house. My mum noticed after a while but she never asked me
anything so I had a feeling she had the answers and this took my mind back to that
comment she’d made. I felt bad but learnt a very important lesson: my girl friends and my dad = bad business
11 comments:
Your dad is an honest man trying not to live a life of regrets. You may not like him now but you will probably be like him in future.
Very funny anon 1.46. This dad is not good at all. If he must cheat which I dont support, why cant he confine his activities to outside his sons circle? And must he cheat? Poor wife of the foolish man
Now trock, anon 1.46 is not funny at all. This boy is towing his father's path already. He should not complain. From the story, he has many romantic girl friends,when will he stop? When he marries a 'poor' wife?
After going though this story what came to my mind is my friends saying years ago 'women are like eagles, any time you see one better pluck a feather because you may not get another chance tomorrow'. apologies to the feminists, religionists etc and of course the poor wife. This man is probably a soul mate of my friend.
This man is a serial adulterer and needs deliverance. His dear son should also do well to keep his girlfriends from the man's sight.
Anon 7:01, i dont even know what to say about your friend's analogy. Should I OMG or LOL it, i dont know. Irony is that someone who believes this will not be able to tolerate infidelity from their woman. As for you, young man, I'm happy you've seen your father's handwork with your own two eyes. Now I hope you will understand the need to desist from your current trend of having many girlfriends at the same time because it seems you are becoming your father.
Anon 1:46, you took the words right out of my mouth. The part about him probably becoming like his dad is true but I feek he can still amend his ways since he's aready conscious of the problem. Whoever you are, you're on the right track by keeping your female friends away from your dad but to nake sure you become a better man, avoid a wandering eye and focus on one girlfriend at a time. Don't become the character you despise and don't say it won't happen. Its easy to go down the dark path.
The question I want people to ask is 'why do married men chase women'? Is there something the wives are not doing well? Sexually I mean.
ok anon 11:02, so you're saying the wives are to blame when their husbands are promiscous? wow. how myopic is that. shame on you for even thinking that way. and btw, no one asked that question here probably because those that come on here are smarter than ..... fill in the blanks.
Anon 11.18. What I can assure is that there is no shame in making a statement of fact. Prior to my comment only 7 people have made comments, a number of them quite foolish or should I say afraid to say it as it is. I think I am hypermetropic and not myopic in this matter. Men will continue on the streets as long as women? like you play the ostrich. Cheers and don't deny your husband sex or he will be the next.
OMG! You really want to go there anon 11:02? Well, I'll tell you what I think and that is if my husband decides to cheat, it'll all be on him and nothing to do with me. The same applies to me, if i decide to cheat, it'll all be on me and nothing to do with my husband. People should take responsibility for their actions and stop trying to justify them by blaming someone else. That is what is wrong with the world today. Also, if i read this story, its about the poor guy whose dad's morals are so low, he's poaching on his son's territory. I guess by your logic, the son must be doing something wrong too. Maybe the foolish boy is not respecting his dad well enough so dad acts out by chasing after any girlfriend of his that mistakenly passes by him
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