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My
priest did the most demoralizing thing to me some time ago and I’m sharing this
story on an anonymous platform like this so that people can weigh in for me. I’m
hoping someone will tell me I have a right to feel the way I do about what
happened with my priest at that time. "
One
evening, I went for confessions in church and met my wife at the confessional, waiting
her turn. We were happy to have run into each other, particularly my wife
because she liked us doing spiritual activities together but I could never make
the time. I was right after my wife and when she finished, I went to the priest
and said my confession. You can imagine the weirdness of it when the priest asked
me if the woman before me was my wife. Sensing I would not like what he had to
say, I almost said no but then, I remembered I was at the confessional and
lying at that time would defeat my purpose of being there so I said yes. With a
funny expression on his face, the priest said I had to take my prayer life very very seriously, gave
me my penance and discharged me.
It took me a few seconds to stand up as I debated
in my mind whether I should ask him what he meant by that comment. Yes, I had
confessed that I never made myself available to my wife for the many spiritual things
she wanted us to do together but I didn’t think it was serious enough for the
priest to make a cryptic comment to me. She must have said something else but what? Common sense (if that’s what it was)
prevailed and I stood up reluctantly and went home. At home, I watched my wife,
wanting to ask her what she’d told the priest but somehow, I could not muster
the courage to do so. Besides, confessions are private – between a man and his God
and no one else, and my priest had abused his position as our confessor by
making such a cryptic comment which planted weird thoughts in my head. Since
that day, I’ve refused to go for confessions with my priest and in fact, I almost
hate him for what he did. It was just plain wrong. When I want to have my
confessions, I go somewhere else. Meanwhile, I still wonder what my wife told
the priest and it’s eating away at me.”
1 comment:
Hah!! I don't even know what to say. But I feel you brother if that's any consolation. Me too, I dodge my priest sometimes because i don't like the idea of confessing to someone who knows me so well. Not that I've done anything out of the ordinary but ...you know now. As for your wife, my brother, ehhmmm, I think you have to move on. She might not have said anything, or she might have but since you'll never know, just forget about it. And that priest eh...na wa o!! He didn't try at all. Am sure he's one young priest cos I can only blame inexperience
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