What do you do when your husband is the kind
of man that will chase anything in skirts? I have been trying to figure this
out for years now and still I have no answer.
Before you judge me, know a few things: I live
in a very conservative society where the man can kick his wife out with nothing
to her name. In my world, he can even take the children away from me if I do
not co-operate with him. In my world, a man can almost do whatever he pleases
especially when he’s got money and my husband has money.
For what feels like the hundredth time, my
husband is having an affair but what worries me now is how serious this one
appears to be.
Shamelessly, he travels with her all over the
country and instead of hotels, they stay in our personal homes where she cooks
and cleans. I know this because I have eyes everywhere (I’ve had to get
creative and willing to ignore my embarrassment and spending money for
information). They have joint business projects and he is actively involved in
her family’s affairs where he contributes time and money to help her. This
woman is not a random young girl who would, like some of the others, either
dump him when they were ready to settle into committed relationships, found
bigger fish or simply were not able to contribute meaningfully to his
extracurricular activities so he dumped them. No, this woman is a mature woman,
seemingly well connected to contacts that are relevant to his business and who
has abandoned her own husband for mine.
It is so bad that he parades her even before
his friends under the guise of some work colleague and I have had these men,
who are notorious in the female department as well, calling me to ask what was going
on as they were worried. One of them
even told me that when he felt real panic was when my husband told him that intimacy
(and I am being PG here) with a mature woman was the ultimate experience. The friend
was in so much shock and felt so much worry that he had to finally concede that
my husband, his friend, was losing his mind in the shady relationship.
Now, as I sit and ponder on what to do next, I
cannot help but feel hopeless. I still love this man as we have been together
for more than half our lives – since we were teenagers. We have children
together and after going through so many years of having nothing and having to
manage frugally, I feel like I have earned my right to be here, especially now
that the wealth has come and it is time to relax and enjoy the fruits of my
patience.
I am confused, depressed and in a lot of pain.
Some days I wake up and it feels like I am losing my mind. I just don’t know
how to deal with this.
2 comments:
Very sad. Life is like that sometimes. Throwing up the worst kind of shit for people.
Don't move an inch from that marriage. Stay and maybe ignore him. Your time will come, don't worry. Everyday for the thief, one day for the owner of the house
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