The one that didn't get away

 

 

 

The usual thing we hear are stories about the one that got away – that incredible person you loved but lost either through your own indecisions, lack of readiness to be fully committed or just plain error on your part (perhaps you cheated or just was nonchalant in the relationship).  But what I’m interested in talking about is that which we almost never hear about and that is the one that didn’t get away.

Strange? Not really especially when you actually think about it because almost all of us have that one that didn’t get away. In fact, some of those reading this are married to that one too.

For the one that didn’t get away, there are different versions. There is that boyfriend (or girlfriend) who you thought you loved for a time but woke up one morning and discovered you didn’t feel much of anything for them anymore. Unfortunately, they won’t just take no for an answer and decide – just as they have seen in many movies – to win you back. To do this, different means are employed such as stalking, constant calls and a general, even if not clearly stated, harassment of your life. You can’t get rid of them and although you have refused all their advances towards you or pleas to give them another chance, they just won’t let you go.

What about that friendly guy, or girl, who you don’t like, but maybe say hi to, but who has decided they like you. They passionately pursue you and your best efforts to dodge them fail because for some strange reason, they know a lot about your schedule and are able to track you, maybe at lunch or perhaps at the bus stop. Since they set their sights on you, the world became a very tiny place as you almost always run into them.

My favourite version of the one that didn’t get away, however, is the one you ended up marrying – oh yes! Once upon a time (big sigh) you thought they were the sun and the moon, literally, and your life would be simply dark and meaningless without them. Then you got married and realised – oh sh…t, you’re stuck with this person for the rest of your natural life. And the best part is that they aren’t just the one that didn’t get away, you have become the one that can’t get away because you’re stuck together. So every day, you wake up, take a deep breath and try your darndest to live the day as best as you can.

If anyone reading this is in any of these situations, there is good news for you which really is the reason for this piece. For those in the first group, a public meltdown and humiliation of that person could work to get rid of them; for the second group, you probably should call the police and for the third, find your way to a counsellor or therapist for you need help to turn things around. Ahhhh ….and now, I feel so much better knowing I have fulfilled my quota of good deeds for the year…Just Kidding ...LOL!